Different, Not Less: A Mum’s Journey with Neurodivergence

never imagined I’d become fluent in the language of neurodivergence, but here I am — a mum of two beautifully unique boys, each wired in their own incredible way. One moves through the world with a mind that sees systems and patterns — a deep thinker who sits more on the autism spectrum, often associated with what people used to call Asperger’s. The other wrestles quietly with an internal storm — a deeply feeling, creative soul with a form of ADHD that often gets overlooked, the kind that hides behind daydreams, scattered thoughts, and overwhelming emotions.

Neurodivergence, in its simplest form, means the brain works a little differently than what society expects as "typical." It’s not wrong, not broken — just different. It includes things like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other ways of thinking and processing that don’t always fit neatly into boxes. These differences can bring challenges in a world not always designed for them, but they also bring incredible insight, strength, and creativity.

Our home is full of contrast and colour. One of my boys can speak endlessly about things he loves, with a focus and depth that amazes me — but he can find social rules and emotional expression bewildering and tiring. My other boy feels the weight of the world on his shoulders. He may forget where he left his shoes or what task he was halfway through, but he never forgets how someone made him feel. His internal world is vivid and vast — sometimes too much so.

Being their mum has changed me completely. I’ve had to relearn what success looks like. I’ve had to sit with the discomfort of not always being able to “fix” things. I’ve had to advocate hard, cry quietly, and celebrate the small, meaningful victories that the world often misses. And through it all, I’ve watched them show up in the world with a kind of courage that humbles me every day.

Neurodivergence isn’t something to fear or feel ashamed of. It’s not an obstacle to be removed — it’s a difference to be understood. And the more we talk about it — gently, honestly, and openly — the more we make space for every kind of mind.

This is why we’ve created this section of the website — so there’s a place where people can share their experiences in a safe environment, and know they aren’t alone.

With warmth,
A mum learning every day 💛